DETACH WITH LOVE

Life is a matter of attaching and learning to let go. To attach yourself to anything or anyone will keep yourself as a prisoner. Do not allow yourself to be a victim. Let go of the attachment and detach with love.


What are some examples of persons or things you can attach yourself to? You can attach yourself to abusive relationships or to relationships with addicts. You can attach yourself to various addictions: drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, workaholism, compulsive buying, compulsive religion, or compulsive exercise to name but a few.

Now comes the big question. How do you detach? It will be a challenge. It will involve making a difficult choice. Perhaps it will mean having to leave a relationship. Perhaps it will mean giving up an addiction. It will involve an unfamiliar road and that can lead to fear.

The important thing to remember is that you are the only one who can do it. Do it as an act of love. You are the only one who can take care of yourself and you are worth it.

We are all given free will in this life. Everything we think or do is a matter of choice. We can do no wrong. Whatever path we follow is the right one for ourselves. This is why it is so important to forgive ourselves when we think we have made a mistake.

The point is that we can make choices that will lead us in a positive or negative direction. The question is, what would you prefer? Do you want to keep repeating the same mistakes or do you want to move forward to freedom?

The first key is to practice awareness. Focus upon your emotions. Anything that doesn't feel good will be an indicator that you would prefer to head in a different direction. Likewise, good feelings will indicate that you are moving in the matter of what would be your preference. Follow your joy and leave the rest behind.

Letting go is not an easy thing to do. It's human to attach yourself to anything outside yourself. The point is to follow what is the desire of your spirit. It will never lead you astray.

Practice prayer and/or meditation. Try journaling. Talk over your situation with another. Get professional help, if necessary. Join a support group. Any or all of these things will be helpful. It's up to you to reach out for help. No one has to do it alone, nor should they try. We can easily rationalize, make excuses, or get caught up in delusional thinking.

Take a leap of faith and let go of whatever is bothering you. Make the choice that only you can. Move forward and don't look behind. Just, whatever you do, do it with love.


Author Davis Aujourd'hui

JOIN THE HUMAN RACE

Do you feel alone and isolated? Do you feel as if you are the only person in the world? If you do, the answer is to join the human race.

You are each unique; but, underneath it all, you are the same. You are part of the whole of all creation. Yet to feel that way, you need to join hands and embrace your common humanity.

It is said that no man is an island. You do not need to do it alone. When you join with your brothers and sisters, you will feel a part of something greater than yourself.

Some people choose to say that is God. Some people simply experience it as being part of a family or group. Whatever is the case for you, allow yourself to share in the group experience.

Try to see your common identity with people that you might judge to be different than yourself. You will be amazed at the common bond you will feel. When you stop focusing on differences, you will align yourself with something that is greater than yourself. It will be a liberating experience.

To remain isolated and separate from the whole, your ego will lead the way. This will only lead to conflict. You will not remain at peace.

Do you want to find freedom? Do you want happiness? If that is the case, step aside from your ego. Identify and relate to others instead of comparing yourself against them. That only leads to judgment and a false sense of reassurance.

If someone has harmed you, do as Jesus said and turn the other cheek. That's not to say, let them walk all over you. Just walk away from the conflict and offer up love and forgiveness.

To take on a resentment, will only keep you locked in a prison of your own making. It will become a poisonous brew that will only hurt yourself. You deserve freedom. You deserve joy.

Allow yourself to align with that greater spirit that unites us all. That is the pathway to peace, freedom, and joy. That is the way to join humanity and become part of the human race.

Author Davis Aujourd'hui

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